1. “I feel…(happy/disappointed/sad)”

Emotional identification is something parents and educators try to teach kids in early childhood—even during infancy. There’s a reason.

2. “Please let me know how I did”

“It can serve as a method to become more self-aware, and it can also strengthen relationships,” says Dr. Cooper. 

3. “I understand how you feel”

Hlivnenko says that emotionally intelligent people almost intuitively identify with others.

4. “I’d feel the same way in your situation”

Like “I understand what you feel,” Dr. Cooper says this statement exudes empathy.

5. “Let’s work together to find a solution”

Conflict and challenges can evoke strong emotions.

6. “How do you feel about it?”

People with a high EQ are good at reading other people’s emotions, but they also take a beat before assuming.

7. “Thank you/I appreciate you”

These phrases acknowledge the efforts of others.

8. “I’m proud of you”

Emotionally intelligent people have well-maintained inner happiness, allowing them to be genuinely happy for others.

9. “I’m sorry”

This phrase is a big one.

10. “Let’s talk about it later”

Emotionally intelligent people aren’t perfect (see: “I’m sorry”). But they can table a challenging conversation before it gets heated.

This statement allows the person to revisit the conversation after some reflection.

11. “I need some time to process my emotions”

12. “Did I get you right?”

This phrase shows a desire to understand a person fully.

13. “What do you think?”

Again, this question ensures that the dialogue isn’t one-sided.

14. “I respect your opinion/decision”

This phrase can be challenging to say, especially when you disagree with someone or were hoping for a different outcome.

15. “How can I help you?”

16. “I love you”

These three words can be so hard to say. But it’s a sign of emotional intelligence if they genuinely roll off the tongue.